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Today is the first day of Advent…the Christian period of waiting and anticipating the celebration of the birth of Christ.  As a person who grew up Catholic and later Protestant, it was always pretty central to my celebrations of Christmas in the past.  As a person who is moving away from the much of the Christian tradition and has not attended church much at all over the past several years, I wasn’t sure how I wanted to mark the season, both as a family and an individual.  There was a part of me that wanted to attend church this month between Thanksgiving and Christmas…and a bigger part of me that did not.  I spent my advent morning not in a church pew singing carols but on an exhilarating 6 mile run with the likes of Tupac, Beastie Boys and Midnight Oil as my “worship” leaders.  Still…there is a part of me, the part that longs for mystery and magic, for beauty that goes beyond gift giving and Christmas lights.  Throughout this season of faith shifting (thank you Kathy Escobar!) there has also been a part of me worried about how my changing faith is affecting my children.   It is why I sometimes want to go to church–and also why I often do NOT want to go to church.  While I don’t want them to inherit my spiritual hangups, I also don’t want them exposed to the very things I no longer believe in.  At the same time I do want them to see Christmas as more than just gifts for them and fun times at home and at school.

I was reading Rachel Held Evans’ blog post about Advent ideas this morning and had an epiphany–and I think it just may work for any family who wants to bring more into the Christmas season than just gifts, even if they are not religious at all.  I think you could tailor the activities described below however you wanted to.  Here’s a description of my not-churchy-advent-observation that I plan on trying out this season.  I’ll let you know how it goes…and I hope maybe it will inspire others of you too, particularly other faith shifters like me.

First:  I’m going to run to the store this afternoon and pick up 5 candles.  I think I’ll use all white, but you can certainly choose whatever you’d like.  I looked on Pinterest for some ideas for advent wreaths.  I’m going to get some sort of greenery or something to place around them (I’ll post a photo after I’ve created it) and cluster them in a large dish.  I may make the 5th candle smaller or a different color, I’ll see what inspires me at the store.

One day each week and then on Christmas Eve or Christmas morning (I’m going to try for Sunday evenings, but also allow for real life, to be flexible) we’ll sit down as a family, we’ll start with one candle the first week, 2 the second, etc.  Each candle will represent something that we will talk about, listen to some music about, and then try to come up with a concrete idea for how to implement that in the week ahead.  The concepts are:

Week 1: HOPE

Things to discuss:

  • What does hope mean? (actual definition)
  • What’s the difference between hope and hopelessness?  Why might someone feel hopeless?
  • Who in our lives or in the world might need hope?  (I still believe in prayer, so we will probably pick some people to pray for in this area)
  • How can we share hope in our family, in the world around us?

We will light the candle (giving each kid a turn) and then listen to a song that is about hope. My pick:  “Hope Now” by Addison Road.  Yes, they are a “Christian” band, but this song isn’t overtly religious and it’s one of the only “Christian” songs I can listen to any more without grinding my teeth.  I’m sure you can come up with ideas of your own or Google some.

Week 2: PEACE

Things to discuss:

  • What is peace?
  • How can we be peaceful in our home?
  • How can we encourage peace in school/work?
  • Where in the world needs peace? (pray here, if you’d like)  Use globe or map to talk about places in the world that are experiencing a lack of peace (Ukraine, Middle East, etc.)
  • How can we be peacemakers?

Song ideas I have for this are “Imagine” by John Lennon and “Let There Be Peace on Earth” (you know, and let it begin with me…)

Week 3: JOY

Things to discuss:

  • What does joy mean?  Are joy and happiness the same thing?
  • What makes you feel joyful?
  • Who are some people who might need joy in their lives? (pray?)
  • How can we bring joy to each other?  To others we encounter?

Song ideas:  Joy to the World (christmas carol!) and Joy to the World (3 Dog Night!)

Week 4: LOVE

Things to discuss:

  • What do you think love means?  Is it a feeling?  An action?  Both?
  • How does life look with/without love?
  • How can we show love to our family/to others?
  • Who might need some love? (pray)

Song ideas:  What The World Needs Now, Get Together (Youngbloods)

Christmas Eve/Christmas Morning

Again, if Jesus is not a part of your tradition, you could skip this entirely or do something else.  How would you culminate your weeks of Advent?  Would love to hear your ideas!

Light 5th candle for Jesus.  Read Christmas story.  Talk about how Jesus came to bring hope, peace, joy, love…NOT fear, conflict, sadness, hate (opposites!).  Talk about how this often gets distorted and not done well.  How we can change that in our lives, one day at a time, one person, one action at a time.  Maybe read a Bible verse that talks about hope, peace, etc.  (One with Jesus’ words??)

So.  Those are my very basic thoughts ideas…anyone else have anything??  Song ideas?  Concrete activities to make these words come to life?  (I’m thinking sending cards to sick kids in hospitals, buying mittens/socks/hats for the library mitten tree, donating toys to Toys for Tots, notes to servicemen overseas…there’s unlimited possibilities!)

Hopefully you’ll find something here worthwhile…may your Advent be full of light!!

I’ll keep ya posted on how it goes 🙂